I've been thinking about this certain subject a lot but didn't really know where to start. It's one of the more serious kind of subjects so if you're not into rants and stuff, that's okay. Just close this blog and I'll catch up with you later.
The main reason why I want to discuss this is because I've had a few not so very nice experiences in a short period of time. What I want to talk about today is feminism. Yeah, I know what you're thinking but I really need to get this off of my chest.
First of all, I do NOT think women are better than men. I think we're equal and that we should be treated equal. It bugs me that men can just walk around shirtless and if something "bad" happens, no one will ask them "Well what were you wearing, or actually.. not wearing?" It's socially acceptable for men to show their chest while for women it would be asking to be raped. Or well, that's what society taught us.
Two weeks ago I went out for a walk all by myself in my home town. Nothing special, just like I always do. It was evening but still light outside and the weather was beautiful so I just wanted to clear my head for a bit. Two men came walking from the other side and I saw them and they saw me. The moment I saw the look on their faces I got chills to the bone. They both literally looked at me like I was a lust object. Like two hungry wolves waiting to catch their prey. They did not look at me as a person. As someone with feelings and thoughts. I just pretended I didn't noticed and just walked past them really fast. I once looked back and saw they were still staring at me and were whispering things I obviously couldn't hear. Thank God nothing happened but if something had happened. Probably the first question I would have gotten was: "Well, what were you wearing?" Like if I was wearing something that even showed a little skin, I would've asked for it. Like it's okay then for men to do whatever they want cause they "just can't help it."
Well ladies and gentlemen, I was wearing a long grey coat with a scarf. I was all covered. But even if I wasn't, if I had decided not to wear my coat I wasn't asking for it. Even if I wore a sleeveless dress, a very short skirt or a short.. I still wouldn't be asking for it. I can wear whatever the hell I want to wear. I should be okay with whatever the hell I want to wear without the fear of not being safe when I'm walking through town.
My second experience was last week. I went out to go get some groceries and there was this older man, he probably was a client from the psychiatric centre. He and his 'buddies' were talking together and I walked past them and said nicely "hi" just like I always do because I don't treat them less than any other people, like most people do. I respect them and I'm expecting that in return. So I walked further and about a minute later this man grabbed my arm and I couldn't understand what he was saying but I felt very uncomfortable so I told him to not to touch me. He got really angry and said if I didn't want him to touch me then I shouldn't have walked there all alone. The craziest part is that there were other people around but no one said anything about it. Everyone pretended to sip their coffee or being busy talking. I felt unsafe and that's something I hadn't felt in a long, long time.
I don't say that are all men are like this. Absolutely not. There are wonderful men and women out there but it just makes me sad that there are people (so also women) who think they can just treat other people like trash, like they're their dolls and can do whatever they want.
I think it's important we will always remain good to each other. You never know what kind of battle they are fighting. Everyone you meet loves someone, have lost someone, have felt pain and joy in their hearts. We should never forget that we're all human beings. If you're a man or a woman. We should be treated equal. Cause equal is what we are.
